- You should not linger in desolate ground.
- In enclosed ground, resourcefulness is required.
- In death ground, fight.
Though Sun Tzu was talking about war, it's a hard thing to admit that human relations can be microcosmic battle zones, too, and even there, the vanquished can feel the victor.
The other aspect is patience. Patience borne where it seems that no more patience is possible. To wait when it seems impossible to wait any longer, for just a moment later, opportunity breaks. This is my situation currently. So much has happened in the last month along these lines that I must say that where I was once a creature of impulse that I now worship patience and The Wait.
It's hard, I know. But good things come to those who wait. No, but really. Put your pieces in play and wait. No, not yet, not yet - okay, now! See? Works every time. You control time this way and time is a non-renewable resource of great value. Yes, you may have to make choices and take losses but it is YOUR decision.
I lost a good friend this year because of lack of patience. My position in my divorce has broadened and strengthened, because of the practice of patience. My situation at work is improved due to patience. The waiting is balance with knowing the options and knowing when to strike for maximum effect. Timing is everything, indeed.
The aphorisms are out there, not only for our amusement. Time to pay attention to them, I think.